Uh-oh, you just slept with a man for the first time but for some reason you want more than casual but he is not on the same page as you. You are wondering if he will still be interested or chase you like he did before doing the deed. First thing you should know is that tons of women ask about this.
Men are hard to understand, but easy to manipulate. Read on to know how to have him at your fingertips and leave him wanting and begging for more!
The first thing you should do is to take advantage of that after-sex glow but maintain your independence. What most women do wrong is clinging on the guy the first week after having sex. Note that you can enjoy his company without looking needy. Connect with him by asking him out for a movie or coffee – always casual but nothing serious.
If he is being evasive, show him that your life is still amazing after the encounter. This does not mean bragging about your life to make him feel like he’s missing out. On the contrary, it involves subtly using social media to show him even though you loved the night together, your life does not depend on his.
The best way to go about this is to post a picture when you’re out with friends, when you’re busy with work in the office, or a solo date. This move will assure him that you are not hunting him down because you want to tie him down so soon.
Next, ensure you satisfy his mind, ego, and hero instinct. Most men in their 30s and 20s are usually attracte3d to ladies primarily for sex. And we can’t blame them! What you can do is steer him to wanting you more. Make him see you as more than a sex object. So, how do you master this?
Fascinate the guy with other aspects of your life other than sexual ones. Keep it spicy and show him the woman in you – even without sex being involved. Young men get bored easily, but if you find the hero in him that makes him tick, you have you cheat-sheet.
Lastly, aim at keeping it casual as you focus on yourself. Some men are just hard to please and keep around. Hence, going with the flow does not sound so bad in some cases.
Remember that giving him all your attention will probably scare him off. However, being the best version of yourself will leave him with more than physical desire for you.
If all this does not work, do not forget that you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince. As a woman, your goals should be being and feeling desirable and fearless! Therefore, do not waste time with a ‘prince’ that will leave you with memories of all the ‘frogs’ that made you laugh before he came into the picture!